A friend of mine, a lover of chick flicks, Mills & Boons, finding ‘The One’ and ‘happily ever afters’, is getting married. I am thrilled for her, will obviously be attending the wedding and I’m looking forward to my trip to Selfridges Shoe Hall and wearing my slinky Herve Leger bandage dress.
She has already been hinting about my current marital status or should I say the lack of it and how she ‘so wants me to find ‘The One’ just like she has done’….I held back my reflex action, which was to spit out my recently sipped scrumptious red wine.
Oh hell, the torturous matchmaking has already started! Please God, let her not put me on the singles corner table on the day!
I used to think my friend was sensible and she normally is on other things; however, when it comes to romance she lives by chick flicks and romance novels. I use to love chick flicks like ‘Dirty Dancing’ ‘Love Actually’, and ‘Pretty Woman – a movie I’m convinced made prostitutes work that much harder. I just believe that real life is nothing like chick flicks.
Personally, I think chick flicks are made to deceive us, they make us think that being in a relationship, any relationship is easy and better than being single…news flash, it isn’t! They convey the message that your life is empty and lonely until you get the guy or girl, and then once you get ‘The One’ all your problems cease to exist….it doesn’t.
Real life isn’t that straightforward and I can happily tell you that being single is an absolute blast and your life is as empty and lonely as you choose it to be. Come on people, we live in one of the greatest and most vibrant cities in the world!
If you’re miserable as a single person, you will be miserable as a ‘coupled’ person, even worse you’ll likely make someone as miserable as you are 🙂.
I can’t tell you the amount of parties, events and functions that I’ve been to, jokingly flirted my way round people I’ve come in contact with, stayed up partying all night, and travelled – admittedly not as extensively as I would like. I may not have been able to do all of these things… and more 🙂, if I was coupled up.
I have childhood friends who got married very early and who admit that they’re not the same person they were when they got married. They read romance novels, watched chick flicks, dreamt of happily ever after but were not prepared for the reality of being married.
I’m not saying having someone is bad or boring; I’m just saying being single is not a bad thing and can be great, especially if the alternative is settling for second best.
Personally I think everyone should figure out who they are and what they want as individuals before getting seriously coupled up. I believe that the ‘single’ period is when all ‘wild oats’ should be sown, get it out of your system, unless you both believe in Polygamy – well that’s a whole other blog 🙂.