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Goals…Who Needs Them?

 

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Goals…

‘So, I’ve written down my goals, now what?’’  This is one of the first questions my clients ask me after their initial consultation.

They normally vocalise their goals in the first consultation, and then I tell them to go back home, in a chilled and relaxed environment, no TV, no distractions; maybe after the first sip of wine, take a paper, a pen and dare to dream.  I ask them to think about what their business and life goals would be, if money was no object.

I find that asking this question and getting clients to write their true ‘dream’ goals in a relaxed, non-judgemental environment, releases them from an invisible chain or mindset that seems to hold people back.

When doing this exercise, I remind clients to, for the moment, not think about how they can achieve their goals.  The aim of the exercise is to make them bring out the dreams they hide from others, or even themselves.

There’s a lot of talk about doing what you love, following your passion or purpose; whether it’s starting your own business, changing careers, or even taking your business to the next ’scarier’ level.

Some people might roll their eyes and years ago I was one of them, but I’ve come to realise that it’s a valid statement.  As humans are living longer, we’re working longer and these longer years should be spent doing something you love.   Doing something you don’t love makes for a shitty life, I should know, I use to hate my well-paid corporate job.

Life, as they say, isn’t a dress rehearsal, you can’t afford to not do something you love with it!

So, avoid a life full of only daydreams and wishes, give yourself permission to have goals and achieve them.

Your Why

Now, write down your goals.

Have you done it?  Good.

Why?  Yep, I asked the question.  Why do you want to achieve those goals?

Writing your goal is great, but you must have a ‘WHY’; a reason.

A reason which becomes the propeller that makes you find a way no matter what; come rain or shine, to achieve your goal.  A reason that keeps you going when you’re knackered and feel like throwing in the towel; when the long hours and challenges seem to overshadow the joy of working towards that goal.

No matter what your goal is – starting a small business, leaving your job for your side-hustle, or even taking your small business to the next level; your ‘WHY’ must be BIG enough to cross the Wilderness of Challenges to get to the Promise Land of your Goal(s).

Because once you can do that, then the fun begins…😊

So…whats-your-why

Are there any business goals you want to achieve but don’t know where to start?

Do you want to start a business but you’re unsure how to begin?

Or, if you need help with your goals, finding your ‘Why?’, make sure you drop me a line and I’ll tell you WHY. 😉

 

Sow those Wild Oats

A friend of mine, a lover of chick flicks, Mills & Boons, finding ‘The One’ and ‘happily ever afters’, is getting married.  I am thrilled for her, will obviously be attending the wedding and I’m looking forward to my trip to Selfridges Shoe Hall and wearing my slinky Herve Leger bandage dress. 

She has already been hinting about my current marital status or should I say the lack of it and how she ‘so wants me to find ‘The One’ just like she has done’….I held back my reflex action, which was to spit out my recently sipped scrumptious red wine. 

Could have been me!

Could have been me!

Oh hell, the torturous matchmaking has already started!  Please God, let her not put me on the singles corner table on the day!

I used to think my friend was sensible and she normally is on other things; however, when it comes to romance she lives by chick flicks and romance novels.  I use to love chick flicks like ‘Dirty Dancing’ ‘Love Actually’, and ‘Pretty Woman – a movie I’m convinced made prostitutes work that much harder.   I just believe that real life is nothing like chick flicks. 

Personally, I think chick flicks are made to deceive us, they make us think that being in a relationship, any relationship is easy and better than being single…news flash, it isn’t!  They convey the message that your life is empty and lonely until you get the guy or girl, and then once you get ‘The One’ all your problems cease to exist….it doesn’t. 

Real life isn’t that straightforward and I can happily tell you that being single is an absolute blast and your life is as empty and lonely as you choose it to be.  Come on people, we live in one of the greatest and most vibrant cities in the world! 

Single and fabulous!

Single and fabulous!

If you’re miserable as a single person, you will be miserable as a ‘coupled’ person, even worse you’ll likely make someone as miserable as you are 🙂

I can’t tell you the amount of parties, events and functions that I’ve been to, jokingly flirted my way round people I’ve come in contact with, stayed up partying all night, and travelled – admittedly not as extensively as I would like.  I may not have been able to do all of these things… and more 🙂, if I was coupled up.

Cocktails, anyone?

Cocktails, anyone?

I have childhood friends who got married very early and who admit that they’re not the same person they were when they got married.  They read romance novels, watched chick flicks, dreamt of happily ever after but were not prepared for the reality of being married. 

I’m not saying having someone is bad or boring; I’m just saying being single is not a bad thing and can be great, especially if the alternative is settling for second best.

Personally I think everyone should figure out who they are and what they want as individuals before getting seriously coupled up.  I believe that the ‘single’ period is when all ‘wild oats’ should be sown, get it out of your system, unless you both believe in Polygamy – well that’s a whole other blog 🙂.